The dictionary definition of elopement is a marriage which is conducted in a sudden and secretive fashion, often involving a hurried flight away. This definition is quite old-fashioned, as nowadays elopements don’t have to be hurried, or secretive – though they do usually involve a flight away from home to a beautiful and magical destination. Elopement offers a stress-free alternative to large weddings and allow couples to focus on what truly matters: their love and commitment to each other. So let’s answer the question: who should I invite to my elopement?

Who should I invite to my elopement?

No One

This is the traditional route – running off into the sunset, just you and your partner. And it’s the traditional route for a reason. Many choose this so that they can focus entirely on each other without any distractions. How romantic?! If you don’t want your family to feel left out, have a dinner party with them to celebrate when you get back. Don’t feel guilty for doing what makes you happiest!

Family

Maybe you like the idea of elopement, but you couldn’t imagine your wedding day without your family. Bring them along! Inviting your parents, siblings, and closest family members allows you to share your special moment with you while still keeping things intimate and true to yourselves. Most elopement packages allow for a small group to join you, but just make sure to consider the logistics if planning to have a remote elopement!

Best Friends

Your best friends have been there through thick and thin and weathered all the relationship storms that came before meeting the one. Having them by your side adds a layer of support and joy to your elopement. Plus, they can help with preparations and celebrations before the special day, making it even more memorable.

Furry Friends

Furry friends (or scaly, or feathered) – these guys are your true best friends! They have enjoyed the ups and downs of life with you and possibly were along the entire journey of your relationship. They deserve to be by your side and will make the moment that much more magical. Just make sure that you choose a destination where they are allowed to join!

General Tips for Choosing Elopement Guests

Keep your elopement intimate.

The beauty of an elopement lies in its intimacy. It’s important to limit your guest list to the people who matter most to you.

Consider Logistics when making plans for an elopement.

When choosing the location make sure to consider travel arrangements, accommodation, transportation to the site, etc. Make sure your guests can comfortably attend without too much hassle on their part. You can always hire me as your elopement photographer, and I will help with all the logistics as well.

Respect the feelings of those who feel left out.

Even if you invite a group of people to join your special day, there still will probably be some family and friends who are upset they didn’t get an invite. It l might be a good idea to host a reception or dinner when you return for those family and friends that didn’t make the cut to show them you appreciate their love and support.

Deciding who to invite to your elopement is a difficult decision. As with any wedding, it is a personal choice that should reflect your relationship and values. Whether you decide to go it just the two of you or have friends and family join, it’s important to create a day that feels true to who you are as a couple. Reach out to me if I can help you with you plans!